#190 Navigating The Uncertainties Of Life & Death

#190 Navigating The Uncertainties Of Life & Death

I operate under the paradox of striving for stability whilst balancing the chaos that comes my way.

Recent global events have collided with a collection of challenging personal tragedies that has left me feeling rocked.

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#189 Body Image, The Reality Of Dieting & Completing 75 HARD

#189 Body Image, The Reality Of Dieting & Completing 75 HARD

For the last 75 days I exercised 90 minutes or more and cut all sugar, fast food and alcohol. The results were not impressive.

It’s all to easy to fall into the trap of mass marketed diets. ‘Do this and you will look like me.’

They don’t work - at least not as quickly or exclusively as advertised.

In this episode I breakdown my journey through 75 HARD. I share my results and discuss how, whilst ‘good’, they are not as impressive as you would initially believe.

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#188 What Happens When A Society Has No Memory?

#188 What Happens When A Society Has No Memory?

What happens when a society has no memory? When every issue feels just as important to every other issue? When we are so over saturated with conflict and controversy that we lose the ability to discern real problems from surface level irritations?

In this episode of The Reality Check Podcast I break down how technology, the news cycle, and social media is warping the social fabric of our society and creating a never ending roller coaster of conflict - all for profit.

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#187 Why You Have A Moral Imperative To Share Your Story

#187 Why You Have A Moral Imperative To Share Your Story

Unless we speak our truth, our narrative will be created for us. People will believe what they see online, pushed by the curators of their individual echo chambers.

Thus other’s perception of you, and the people belonging to your groups, will not be correct. Quotes will be mined, small disagreements emphasised and conflicts stoked.

All for profit.

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#186 The Impact of Neglect on Every Aspect of my Life

#186 The Impact of Neglect on Every Aspect of my Life

Neglect is the absence of love, support and guidance. It’s impact is multifaceted, spanning every aspect of a sufferers life.

I have started blogging on the topic in the hopes to reduce the stigma, explain the impact, and to connect with fellow suffers.

Two of my recent posts received a lot of comments and engagement, so I decided to feature and expand upon them here.

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#185 I Wrote Some Erotica! - Introducing KINK Volume 1

#185 I Wrote Some Erotica! - Introducing KINK Volume 1

I have just released KINK Volume 1.

A collection of 33 erotic poems and short stories. The reception has been amazing, with some incredible reviews, responses and readings.

In this episode I introduce the book, share some of the feedback, talk about the writing process, and discuss the connection between mental health and sexual expression.

This episode is NSFW!

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#182 Breathing During Transitions - 3 Minutes To Release Anxiety & Sleep Better

#182 Breathing During Transitions - 3 Minutes To Release Anxiety & Sleep Better

I have taken to doing 3-minutes of slow calm breathing during transitions as a way to reduce resting anxiety.

In This episode I share how this simple intervention has had a profound impact on my mental state as well as my ability to fall asleep at night. Try it, take a just one slow calm breath and see how you feel!

I also introduce my kids meditation series 'Silent Superheroes'

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#181 Making Better Choices In Response To Triggers & Trauma - Not Getting Drunk/High This Time

#181 Making Better Choices In Response To Triggers & Trauma - Not Getting Drunk/High This Time

I am not in the best way ATM, but unlike previous times I have felt this way I have made a different choice.

Rather than choosing to inebriate myself, I chose not to. I recognised how I would feel during and after the inebriation, and how I have previously felt and made a different choice.

So now I have been left to sit with the pain, but also to recognise that my pain won’t last (because it never lasts).

I can take good actions:
- I followed my crisis plan
- Undertook self-care
- I prioritised my mental health
- I focused on the good

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#180: Reframing ‘Pain’ To ‘Tension’, What Calm Birth Taught Us About Life

#180: Reframing ‘Pain’ To ‘Tension’, What Calm Birth Taught Us About Life

Maria joins me to discuss the concept of reframing our prior conditioning to observe reality as it is, first using our recent birth experience, but then taking that concept into all areas of life.

It’s not ‘pain’ it is ‘tension’, this language change has profound impact on the outcome of birth.

We also discuss how meditation and breathing help to control the mind

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#179: Don't Delay Your Happiness

#179: Don't Delay Your Happiness

We have a tendency to believe that happiness will come ‘when we make it’ or ‘when we accomplish the goal’. In this way we delay our happiness to some future state.

The problem is that we live the majority of life in the pursuit, and when we finally do arrive, our happiness is short lived.

Thus we risk living a life where we are delaying our happiness, and never actually enjoying it, or the present moment.

But the good news is that once we recognise this process, we can start mindfully appreciating the present moment and enjoying the journey as well as the destination.

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178: Change Is The Only Constant

178: Change Is The Only Constant

There is nothing in life that doesn’t change.

Consider your body, your goals, your life. It is always changing and will always change.

In this talk, I break down how mindfulness helps us to accept change and embrace it by living in the moment.

By seeing reality as it is, for what it is, we can find peace.

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177: Positive Habit Acquisition

177: Positive Habit Acquisition

Positive daily habits are the key to personal development and growth.

Start slow and let life open up to accommodate the new habit. One minute a day is infinitely better than none - and the change will not come as a shock.

Your mind, body, and life will accommodate to your new habit and it will stick.

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173: Don't Let People Use You As A Therapist - Dealing With Over Sharers

173: Don't Let People Use You As A Therapist - Dealing With Over Sharers

Ever find yourself stuck in the middle of a conversation that you weren’t prepared for? One that is triggering, intense and wholly inappropriate for the situation?

I have.

In this episode I discuss how to manage these conversations, in a way that both protects your mental state as well as the relationship.

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172: Introducing 'Reflections of the Self; The Poetry Insights and Wisdom of Silence'

172: Introducing 'Reflections of the Self; The Poetry Insights and Wisdom of Silence'

Introducing my latest book ‘Reflections of the Self; The Poetry, Insights and Wisdom of Silence’, out now as a paperback, eBook and on audio.This book is one part poetry, one part introspective spiritual discussion. In this episode I share the chapter ‘Finding Peace Through Perspective’, which begins with the poem ‘Two Leaves’.

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171: Why Effective Communication Is So Hard

171: Why Effective Communication Is So Hard

Open and honest communication is essential to all relationships, yet the process of expressing ourselves in a way that can actually be understood is far more complex than it appears at first glance.

In this episode I muse on all that is necessary for your words to accurately portray the meaning you intend.

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